My ex husband ( just final divorce this week) is with a beautiful young yoga teacher.

He is a rich guy who likes to go to these international "love ins". That is how we met, I thought he was an advanced person, and that is how he met her. After marriage when we had a baby, I stopped wanting to camp and travel to "consciousness raising" gatherings. I wanted to stay home to care for our baby and be with other moms to get into the whole parenting thing. He became angry, critical, and told our friends he wasn't interested in our baby or interested in me as a fatter nursing mom. Then he went and met this new woman. He is such a hypocrite I want to stab him in the face. When I see him and this new yoga teacher in their "consciousness raising" photos, I want to bomb them. F*cking phony a*holes. So now I am single and have a toddler. I can't run off to meet someone, but I honestly love parenting. He only wants to have our toddler a few times a week to show him off like a puppy at his "gatherings" that he nows hosts in his new "consciousness raising" studio. Since he a rich trust funder, he pays for everything like a giant hippy party. I know he is a phony a**, but I see him and his groupies everywhere in our small town. I can't shake my anger. I was totally duped by all his initial bs. How can I live without wanting to kill him and all his fake a** hippy groupies?

Update: July 15, 2009.
Thanks for all the laughs. Sorry for all the angry guys that think I was martha stewart hiding amongst the hippies till I got knocked up and then Baama Laam boring mom type emerges and scheistered the tie dye man! Haa HHaa I said, join me or else!! I put organic ruffies in your Kambuchas! Come my pretty" We will populate the earth with step by step arts and craft projects HHHHAAAA! you will learn to like it ARRharrHHarrr!!!

Update: July 15, 2009.
You are so right. I used a new age ruffy. Ya got me. I put it in his Kambucha

Update: July 12, 2009.
Thanks for the support! I want to focus on the good, my beautiful son. It's hard because I cannot move from this small town. But thanks for your prayers and the belly laughs! I will make it through!

So what do you think about my moms comments - details?

Tonight my mom and I had dinner out at the diner in our neighborhood. My friend Barbara (whose mother passed away in February 2009) used to pick up dinner at this diner every single night. Any way when Barbara and I were in our 20's I set her up with my next door neighbor (and friend) Richard. It was getting serious with them but she broke it off - she wanted to focus on her career.

This afternoon my mom and I were at the movies and there was this guy sitting right in front of her and he never turned around but he looked like this guy Richard was friends with and this male friend used to double date with Richard and Barbara, but Barbara broke it off with Richard to focus on her career. Barbara, Richard, his friend and me were in our 20's. And recently Barbara told me she was sorry that she broke it off because she and Richard were getting serious and they would have gotten married and Barbara's mom was furious at Barbara for breaking it off. So at dinner (in the diner) I told my mom all this and she said to me "You had chances as well" I told her that I am fine with everything and I am happy and my mom said to me as if she was telling me how I feel "No you are not" and I got pissed at her and said to her how could she say I was unhappy and she said that I could be happier if I had a social life.

When I was driving home from the diner (which is a three minute trip) I said to her that how could she say I was unhappy and she said that isn't what she said that she thinks I could be happy with a married life style as well.

So what do you think about my moms comments - details?

Where do single moms go to make friends?

I'm 27 and i have a 2 year old and Lately I'm just missing out on having someone my age to talk to and hang out with. I have moved a lot in the past few years and I've never really had many friends and the ones I have kept live 3 hours away.
I live in a smaller town and I've looked for play groups and there arent any I can find, I don't work so I don't meet people that way. So whats left? Where do I go?

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY DADS AND SINGLE MOMS!

Missing girl in Michigan

I was just reading an article about the little girl who has been missing since Sunday. The article stated that her mother is in her early-to-mid twenties and two of the "persons of interest" in the case are men in their late thirties (who also happen to be convicted sex offenders) and are associates/friends of the mother. One of them was described as her boyfriend.

To me, that sends up some red flags. Of course, that's easy to say now.

But it also makes me wonder how much young, single mothers take into consideration when they date someone. I don't know how the mom met her "boyfriend" or the other guy, and I'm sure most sex offenders don't go around telling people that they are sex offenders, so maybe she didn't even know their history.

But still. . .doesn't it just seem a little creepy that two significantly-older men were taking such a strong interest in a young single mother?

Single moms: how careful are you about the men you date, when it comes to the potential safety of their children?

Hope they find that poor little girl. :o/

I am a (newly) single stay at home mom. Should I stay in the burbs or move back to my city?

Anyway, If I moved back to the city I'd get that spark goin again. That spark is a social life. I know lots of moms who like the city for kids, lots to do, etc. Just more pollution and noise. I currently live out in the suburbs and I am bored to tears. I never lived in the burbs when single, never ever. I was a social person. So my question is, should I stay for my kid? It's certainly more quiet & we have a nice house. In the city I would have to downsize to an apt. What's more important, quiet and a home, or some pizazz for mom?

I asked my BF for a BREAK, Why IS he still talking to me ? Sex ? Love ? Misses me ???

I put sex in headline because everyone clicks on that. ;)
With my bf for 4.5 months
he courted me for first 2 months
didnt have sex until 14th date
he then started to get stressed by work. Luckily he started to do very very well and now is being a workaholic. on top of that he is a great dad ad spends most weekends doign stuff for his son during the day (coaching, playing sports, etc)
and i understand that I cant be a top priority.
But he started being late for our one date night, Saturday.,
and by late picking me up at 9 or 10 pm when he knew id be ready and all dolled up around 7
Finally when this happened six times i tried to talk to him about it
instead of fighting for me he said he has a busy life and understands if i want to break up.
i said no.
he then said he knows it sounds bad but maybe i should go hang out with my friends on saturdays sometimes and that way im not bored or lonely and he can meet me later.

i kept thinking about it and my friends all said he was treating me less like his beloved exclusive girlfriend and more like his booty call.

so i was upset and wrote him an email asking for a temporary break to give me time to think and him time to decide things.
i did say i love and adore him
he wrote back i shouldnt have just emailed him that.
he the removed our in a relationship status on facebook (no his status doesnt say single now, it just is blank)

well that was 2 weeks ago.
since then he has called me 7 times.
twice he was horny and it was late at night and he wanted me to know im the only girl he's thinking about he also griped that all my beaus on facebook must be hot and heavy and excited now and he bets id run with my other exbf who is my best friend still (he is jealous of that for some reason)
the other 5times he was sober and instead of talking about our relationship he talked about current events, our moms and how Mothers Day went visiting them, movies and then last night he called me just to share the play he helped his son write for a big class project.
it was touching and cute and confused me
he is very private and protective abotu his son and here he was sharing something meaningful.

what the heck does he want ?
he doesnt say he misses me
but i do notice a very different 'tone' in voice.
quieter, more subdued, tremulous.
this is a guy who usually super boisterous ad loud.

men.
help me figure this out !

Additional Details
i should add he is 40 next month
and im 31

For all the wonderful mothers.....

I'd just like to say thank you.....you women are truelly what keeps the world together....for all those moms...single...married ....even those that want to be moms...

Happy Mothers day......I know it's a little bit early but I'll be working in the yard putting in flowers for my wife so I figured I might as well say it now.....

For those that don't get anything I'll just let you know what your sons and daughter are thinking...

Thanks Mom for all that you do....

Fixing the aches.....
Fixing dinner.....
Doing the laundry.....
Cleaning my room and the house.....
Being there for me.....and my friends....
For every game, ballet, choir, chess match or what ever that you have attended.....
Keeping me out of trouble....
Taking me all around town....
Supporting me through thick and thin....
Taking me Fishing....
Putting up with DAD.....
Playing with me.....
Taking care of my pets....
Playing in the rain with me.....
For those wonderful hugs.....
And the I luv you's.....

And you can add to the list.....

Thanks again MOMS and don't ever forget we Love you....



Update: May 08, 2009.
Dear Anonymous, I am so sorry to hear that. I'm sure there are mothers like you. But trust me....I'm sure she did love you....being a mom is not easy work...kids don't come with a manual that says...do this do that....you pretty much have to learn on the fly....sometimes some people just don't get it.....hopefully though she was able to teach you one of the most important aspects about being a parent....that is how to be one....see you have it in you to turn things around...do the things for your kids that she was unable or unwilling to do for you..... I know I've made plenty of mistakes going down the road to parenthood....and more than likely I'll make a few more....but you just keep learning and going forward...... By the way if you ever want to play in the rain....just call me......

i'm stressed and need a good listener to help me sort my thoughts

1. i got my check for $430 and owe my daycare $380 but yet now all i have left of my check is $230. i somehow spent 200 on jeans, moms birthday gift, grandpas birthday gift, my sitter last night, going out and the rest was for gas and food. so actually i didnt do too bad. but now i'm freaking out because i need money to pay the rest of my daycare and if i get it out of the account my husband is going to get mad at me and ask me where all my money went. i know i went out last night and spent 20 bucks and 25 on sitter but i've really needed this break from my 3 kids since my husband is gone for a week at a time working. did i do something wrong by spending a little money on myself to go out and buy a new pair of jeans last night? i'm starting to feel guilty.
2. i'm so broke right now i cant afford to do Easter for my kids. i got them all a basket of goodies but didnt actually hide eggs for them. all that little candy gets so expensive, but now i'm feeling bad and want to dip into even more of my daycare money just to go get them some eggs and candy to hide around my house to make their easter special. am i wrong for not hiding eggs for my kids? i kinda feel like they're missing out and i hate that so much!!! should i feel guilty? please answer honestly.
3. my other son who is 8 is always at my mom n dads. they come and pick him up even without asking me first. i was single when he was born and we lived with them. my mom is a very bossy person. she started trying to act like he was her own kid like grounding him and stuff. she still does that. its like he's lost respect for me totally and respects them all the way. they buy him lots more than i do. i love all 3 of my kids the same, but my younger 2 are mine and my husbands kids and he has a different dad so he always gets jealous of them that they have a daddy. my husband has offered to be his daddy and he says ok but when we dont give him his way he's ready to run back to my mom n dads. when things dont go well there he is ready to run back here to my house. i cant live like this anymore.
4. last night while i was relaxing with friends my sister and nosy sister in law called me asking me if i got my older son a easter basket with goodies from the easter bunny. i got really mad about that. how dare they suggest i hadnt done that. of course i bought for all my kids the same. i dont play faves like they do. i just felt like that was a really rude question to ask. they said to bring it to my moms house where he was staying last night and i said no that i wanted him to have it here in the morning with his brother and sister. well my sister and sister in law go behind my back and go to walmart last night and buy him a big basket of goodies. today when i picked up my 2 from my mother in laws and picked up my other son from my moms and took them all home to see what the easter bunny brought, my other 2 were ecstatic unlike my older one who said his basket sucks and that the easter bunny got him better stuff in his basket at his grandma's. then he started bragging to the other ones that he got 2 baskets from the easter bunny and they only got one. i'm just so sick and tired of all this shit.
sorry this was so long i just have a lot on my mind!!

This is why single mothers piss me off, they always play the victim "pity me pity me" sympathy crap

I get so sick and tired of single moms playing the victim and blaming the father of their children for everything.

Single mothers should take some f*^*^*g responsibility for their own mess of a life!

You chose the father of your children.

Things didn't work out.

Please BLAME YOURSELF.

No one lives your life.

No one else makes decisions for you.

I AM SO PISSED MY EXHUSBAND DISAPOINTED MY KIDS AGAGN HE PROMISED TO SEE THEM TODAY AND DIDN'T......

He barely sees them since we've been divorced 3 years ago

He will go 6 MONTHS without seeing or calling, then, just pop up like no big deal

Last time we went to court the judge said he can't make him see his children, so, yesterday he just comes by for a few hours then promises to see them today.

they waited all day asking me to call him over and over[he doesn't have a phone]

well he finally calls drunk asking if I could pick him up so he could see the kids

I didn't

I am so upset for my kids they don't deserve this
my 6 year old's little heart is breaking, and, I feel helpless

I don't know what to do

Update: March 30, 2009.
When I was talking to hum about not seeing his kids he just kept saying I know I know I said well wey do you do it he was like I don't know I asked him if he would get councling but he is homeless amd has no health ins so I don't know how he could when he left today with his broken foot to take the bus to who knows where my heart broke to know he will probally be sleeping jn the street but I know it isn't healthy for him to stay with me I want what is best for my kids thats why I am getting real help thanks for your support

Update: March 30, 2009.
So I tried to talk to my exhusband and he doesn't think he has a problem I just don't understand how low do you have to go?I don't get it but it truly breaks my heart my children were so happy to see him so now what do I do how do I protect them what is best for them I know having there dad in and out of there life isn't good for them I love my kids and want whats best I am getting family councling but am on a waiting list thank you for all your help

Update: March 29, 2009.
My ex called me several times lastnight drunk then this morning from the hospital he fell and broke his foot he asked if he could come by to see the kids I let him I am at work today so he is at my house with my very understanding boyfriend I NOW TRULY believe my ex has a drinking problem no it wasn't like this when we were married but he can no longer keep a job and is homeless he needs help and when I get home I am going to try and talk to him I DON'T know if it will do any good I'm sure many of you may think I AM CRAZY but I feel like he needs some kind of help I am looking into support groups for family members to help my kids so they know they aren't alone with the dissapointment from a parent with a drinking problem and for all you nasty ass men who keep sending me mail ANONYMOUSLY HAVE THE BALLS TO PUT YOUR SCREEN NAMES BE A REAL MAN FING WUSS GET A LIFE AND FOR THE REST OF YOU THANK YOU THANKYOU SOOOOOO MUCH IT HELPS

Update: March 28, 2009.
I love all you men who stick up for a peice of shit father who blows off his kids to get drunk ya he was a great person when we were married he also beat me in front of them to ya he is a great man as for the rest of you thankyou for the support it really helped I do hav my kids in councling because this is starting to affect them it is just so heart breaking to see and not once do I say one bad eord in front of my kids about this piece of crap