I need a new plan... This one isn't working.
Long story short...
I moved back to my hometown in Florida a few years after my divorce for the primary reason that I had no support system in Michigan after a leukemia scare. How could I take care of 2 kids when I was too sick to take care of myself? I recovered from that incident, which turned out to be viral meningitis, but it really shook me up. My ex was being uncooperative, hostile and difficult to "punish" me for leaving him. Plus, I was offered a job working for the prosecuting attorney's office, which was a dream come true.
Things didn't work out. The job was great, but my oldest son had an emotional breakdown. He missed his dad too much, never felt like he "fit in" at school and was just miserable. There was more family drama, too...but it's not necessary to get into that.
Meanwhile, my ex apologized to me for everything and really seems to have turned himself around. He quit drinking and is even attending church on occassion. He's remarried to a wonderful woman and he really seems sincere and devoted to being a better husband and father.
So, I allowed my kids to return to Michigan and stay with their dad until I'm able to go back. I came to PA to stay with family while I look for a job. Actually, I'm renting an apt from my dad & step-mom for next to nothing, with no formal lease.
Believe it or not, I do have 8 pending applications in Michigan with the courts & prosecutors' offices between 3 different counties/cities, all within commuting distance of where I would live.
But, I still need an income in the interim and just in case nothing comes thru in MI. I'm waitressing part-time and temping on and off, but it's not enough. The courts here are completely frozen....I haven't seen a job posting in six months. So, I'm applying to private law firms. I don't have the specific experience that the big firms are looking for....commercial litigation, patent/trademark, insurance defense, etc. I've had several interviews with smaller firms, but they're afraid I won't stay long-term.
I don't know what else to do...
Update: October 28, 2009. Well, I tried to keep it short. :\
No, moving back to Michigan would not be too difficult for me. I want to be with my kids and have a normal life with them. I still have friends up there and my church.
But, I just got yet another bomb dropped on me today. My mom, who lives in Florida, has cancer in her throat and possibly her lymph nodes. She will need surgery, chemo & radiation. My closest sister lives 4 hours away and she is caring for her SO, who has MS. I still need to talk to my youngest sister, but I don't know what we will do. - Asked by snowbear08, A Cool Mom, Female, 36-45, Pittsburgh, Who Cares? |