Regarding marriage and relationships ...

I was reading about John Wooden recently because he just turned 99. Rick Reilly, on ESPN, wrote a piece about things that were amazing and admirable about Wooden. One of those things was that he had been married to one woman his entire life (until she passed away) and still writes letters to her every year on the day of her passing. Also, she was the only woman he had ever kissed.

Now, to me, that IS admirable. And I'm sure a lot of people realize that sort of love and devotion are rare. But it's funny to me ("funny" meaning "sad") that, in the realm of relationships and marriage, people love to admire OTHER people doing those sorts of things. It's great for someone ELSE to do that, but when it comes to themselves they're like "well, gotta hit the group orgy early tonight or else we won't have time to exchange wives with the neighbors later." I always thought that if you admired something, you should try to emulate it.

My boyfriend goes back to school for nursing he is 38 .He has a female lab partner never tells

when class came to a end she wanted to keep in touch she said can I have your phoen number.HE said no girlfriend wouldnt like that.Week later Really want to see what your nursing clininclas are like can I have your email so he did.Class ends she emails in Aug wants to but his book from his summer class.So he meets and sells her never tells me.He met in a grocery store parking lot.OK As he leaves she give him a hug.So for two years he emails her every few months about school she does share things about her family.She is married.I cant get over this.Do you think ge did wrong?Could you forgive?We live together for seven years own our home.

Update: October 24, 2009.
Can someone explain to me or better yet convince me why everyone is so strong that he didnt cheat and then I will go away.Like I said before when it came out he should of been honest then not wait for me to hound him for six months about more details .If you didnt get that post it was about I found out in nov and he down played never told me he meet to sell books and he hid the fact he wrote for almost two years instead of one .He felt it wouldnt be so bad .But it just made me more nutz as you can tell.Why is it Everyone seems so assured he didnt cheat?I know it doesnt sound liek it emailing every few months but still she did hug when he left the parking lot he was surprised by that also she did say in two emails you can call me if you want to talk he is not a talker and hates the phone.So i know he didnt.Can someone convince me he didnt cheat?In class she was friendly one saturday he went to study in the lab she showed up it was for a test on mon she brought pb and j and chips water and he did break with her for a few.Also in emails she invited him to pampered chef party didnt mention me but he said it came from the dealer it was email.She also said he could come to her work and she coul show labs there and they can eat in teh cafeteria he never did do any of this he ignored these emails.Then just stopped emailing when he didnt hear from her he figured she lost his email so he was happy.He could of wrote but didn t he said as class when on he had less to say.

Update: October 24, 2009.
Overthinker101 .HE had quit talking to her before i ever found out she existed.Maybe during this time frame they wrote which was august 05 to may 07 I found out november 07 I woke up and he closed computer screen out .I said what was that and he showed me .Because she email college and he had it set up they forward email to home email and she did since she lost his email.In that email she siad she missed talking to him and he should call herand gave her number also she remembers his st address but not the number .I think he was like what am I going to do so he put it out there.but I hounded him for six months about it then he told me he meet her and sold the book.HE first told me he only wrote her like 5 times in a year well the truth was 10 or 12 in two he meet her when he took first class he tried to down play how long he knew her felt it would soften the blow but since he did that it made it worst for me because I think what a liar.He said it didnt sound so bad.HE is also a quiet introvert person I never expected this.She was over friendly and married.

Update: October 23, 2009.
I got alot of great answers Thank You .But I just dont understand why people dont realize when you communicate every few months behind your girlfrirnds back and it surfaces two years later.Its a surprise I didnt like.Does anyone feel they should be upfront to there partner?And your telling me theres nothing wrong with not telling your partner?

Update: October 23, 2009.
Ok to the ones who responded the second time Thank you.Ok Let me clear some information up clinicals were for nursing she didnt get in the program he was in she needed another year of school.She wanted to know what is like.Also in one of the emails he said MAYBE WE CAN GRAB ABITE TO EAT SOMETIME WHEN I HAEV MORE TIME AND I CAN TELL YOU ALL YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT CLININCLAS. I see this as wrong we were committed also I didnt find out till 2 yeaars later.He claims he wasnt going to do it just said it becasue he didnt feel liek answering her questions to in depth.HE never did meet her but even saying that to me is wrong?What do you say?

Update: October 23, 2009.
Remember he didnt tell me I found out two years later after he stopped emailing her.

Update: October 23, 2009.
No one seemed to address the fact he didnt tell me.Everyone thinks thats all ok?

Maybe a stupid question.

Money ($200.00) for a student loan is taken directly from my checking account by a collections agency. I know that I don't have enough in my account to cover it but my overdraft limit is $500.00. Do you think the collections agency will withdraw the money? Will they know I don't have enough in my account? I want them to take it because I'll be getting paid soon and then can cover the money and the overdraft fee.

I need to unwind, seriously.

I have been working so much lately. I need a break... a distraction, if you will.

What should I do tonight? Any suggestions?

housing, ssi, and ,school

Ok so its 1:30 am and some thing just popped into my head and now I need some help. Today at 11:30 I have a appointment with my school to sign back into school. Now I have ssi my mom all so has ssi and my mom's on housing and I live with her. The last time i new if I was in school then i wouldn't have to pay rent which is great.But if i am in school and i don't have to pay rent wont ssi take money away from my check knowing I am getting the most given amount of ssi possible ? I really need to know this cause if so then I don't know what to do. Cause I really need all the money I am getting between trying to find a car. So i can get a job X-mas and other living expenses.

If you saw a man being assaulted by a woman

and he wasn't resisting.
Would you intervene by helping him and calling the police? Or would you assume it is none of your business and not bother? Why or why not?

Take into account that (for the sake of this question) he is just as unable to resist her because of cultural norms (man can do nothing to harm a woman and even holding her arms strongly enough that she can't go on would probably be classified under the question I popped by most people) as she would be unable to resist him due to physical strength difference.

If you saw a woman being assautled by a man

would you intervene by helping her and calling the police? Or would you assume it is none of your business and not bother? Why or why not?

If I met you in person, why wouldn't I like you?

I'm very judgmental, you know...

Why do I always go after the players??

Every girl im ever interested in, dating, etc. is always some sort of flirt and cant keep one guy without playing me and flirting or going after another guy. I dont understand.

Are you the weiner or the bun? Why?

What SHOULD a Bill CLinton statue look like after all????

Maybe, with him standing with his schlong in his hands, leering at interns???


Eating a cheeseburger and dipping french fries in lard?


Bailing brother Roger outta' jail? handing a check over to a bailiff, maybe???


Shoving a cigar up a skank's snizz???



If YOU could design a Clinton statue, what would it look like????

Good Morning AO friends!

ON THE NEWS:

Who likes the Clinton statue in Kosovo?
The newest AOL poll show that almost the majority has a positive opinion of Clinton.
Weren't these the same people who brutally criticized him? AOL, what a fake!

have a good Monday folks,
argie