been seeing a married man, well mostly talking. i know this isn't the site for such nonsense, but i trust that i'll get some honest opinions. i hope.
its really frustrating cause we can never be together. i don't mean to marry him, but just physically for now. im always going back and forth with my feelings, do i just want to talk so i feel special and makes me feel good, but then i risk my feelings. or should i just stop talking to him all together? he was telling me the other day how he and his wife argue a lot and that shes not the great wife that everyone thinks she is, etc. and i jokingly said, u should get a divorce. i kinda meant it as a friend's advice. but he said, oh ur not the first to tell me that. i said, oh why, again thinking if he's had enough friends telling him that that he really did have it bad. but no, he said, oh ur not the first girl who wants me to leave my wife.
r u serious, that bothered the hell out of me. i know i have no loyalty from him, i mean, he's married. but he had the balls to tell me that. thats what makes me just want to walk away. i mean its one thing to just be having sex, but he makes me have feelings for him. WHY would he want me to have feelings for him? and then at the same time just treat me like a buddy and tell me shit that i shouldn't or don't want to really know?
of course everytime i tell him i don't think i can do this anymore, he'll talk me out of it just to keep me hanging. he professes his feelings, blah blah blah. but then he goes home to his wife and acts as the good husband. that really makes me mad, rather, i should say jealous!
i know everyone's gonna say not to mess with a married man, but i really truly honestly like him. i can't help it. he pursued me. i honestly don't want him to leave his wife, who wants a cheater? but just confused as to what our situation is. he probably gets off on messing with my head and heart. i just don't get it. anyone have any suggestions, besides, don't date a married a man. LOL - Asked by A Career Woman, Female, 29-35, Who Cares? |