I really need your opinion people . Try to put yourselves in my shoes & come up with the best advice I've been hurt so many times in my life it's not even funny .. Like if I start telling you about my stories, you would just tell me what all my friends have told me ( You should write a book! ) .. seriously .
The thing is ( and I'm not bragging or being a stuck up bitch or anything ) .. but I am very good looking .. I am a 24 year old doctor .. Basically, like some guys have said, I am every guy's dream .. But for some reason, i always end up with assholes .. And they always end up breaking my heart ..
Now I've had it with heartaches and worrying .. So i promised myself I would never date again ..
But I do feel lonely sometimes .. Especially when I see the people around me dating/falling in love/getting married ... I feel empty ..
As independant as I am ,, and as much as I try to show that I dont need a man, I do feel soooo lonely sometimes ..
Now I've had guys asking me out, since I promised myself I wouldnt date ( I made that promise in December 2008 ) .. But I always reject them .. I cannot trust guys anymore .. I just cant ..
One of the guys that have asked me out is actually a really good friend of mine .. We've been friends for over 5 years and he knows me inside out .. He didnt just ask me out, he fell in love with me .. And he keeps asking ( til now ) and telling me that he would never break my heart and how i am the only woman he wants, and all that ..
He is real sweet, and real caring .. and always there, and loves me sooo much ..
Honestly Im not physically attracted to him AT ALL .. but im speaking out of experience here when I say that the good looking guys are always assholes .. But I cant be with someone i am not attracted to AT ALLLL .. But then again, if he's real sweet and loves me, then maybe when i start to open up to him, i will look past that ?
The problem is ( other than him not being good looking) is that he comes from a family who believe in arranged marriages .. so I am about 80% sure we cannot get married .. Whats the point of being with him and probably falling in love with him if it will end some day ? I really cannot take another breakup, I might break down .. I swear I am sooo damaged, i dont show it .. But I am :(
So what do you think answerologists?
Should I date him and fill the emptiness inside me, despite the fact that i think he is BELOW AVERAGE on the looks scale, and the fact that we might end up breaking up some day... Or should I stay friends with him and stay single until some good potential shows up ? - Asked by Female, 22-25 |