My bf and I of over 2 years were having problems in our rlationship this summer. Things were really getting bad, but I thought we were both going to try conciously to help our relationship. I found out he'd been texting another girl that he works with, bought her a birthday card (which by the way is a big deal because he doesn't buy cards, and one night WHILE I WAS WITH him, he texted her. And the worst part about all of this is that he lied about it over and over. I knew we had been having problems, but I trusted him with all my heart when it came to other women. Well I broke up with him and we were apart for a month. During that time, I had a one night stand which is very unlike me. But I did. I regretted it. When me and my bf decided to give it another shot, I told him about what I did. And to his credit, he does not hang it over my head, BUT he thinks that what he did is okay becuase of what I did. What I cannot get him to understand is that I WAS NOT WITH HIM when I slept with this guy, he was with me when he was thinking about someone else, and I honestly never thought I'd get back with him. PLUS, he lied about that other girl for a month! then he finally came clean. The thing is i am a very honest person, he knows that. I could have chose not to tell him a had sex, but I did. He is the one who adamantly lied about this other girl for so long. It makes me think he thinks I'm dumb, and it also lets me now he will lie to me about anything. When he admitted it, he said he didn't do anything big and it was small stuff. To me, if it has to do with another girl, everything is big. And if he's going to be like that, he could do anything and then define as small to justify it. I know I messed up sleeping with someone else after we broke up, but before I did that he had already let someone else in between us. I could get past that , but he isn't remorseful about it at all. I dont know what to do? I do not want to lose him, but I'm tired of being walked all over just because he thinks he does no wrong. PLease help - Asked by Female, 18-21 |