I know it's bad form to pop one's own question..

but popping anyway for the night crew ;)

To commemorate Armistice Day

I've uploaded a movie to my profile.

It's a true story about the effects of WW1 on a famous English family. To my knowledge it hasn't been broadcast outside of the UK, I would like to share it with anyone who cares to watch.

So, if you have some spare time I would highly recommend viewing it.

Weren't these people trusting the government BLINDLY for the last 8 years?? LOL

One problem with relationships - not taking responsibility - what do you think?

I had a post a couple of days ago about how people are stupid who BLINDLY trust the government. Don't get me wrong, I think our government is good given that we live in an imperfect world, but it's stupid to trust it blindly. You have to take responsibility for your life, not expect the government to take care of you, and that includes not blindly trusting the government, but asking questions, etc.

However, I think people make this same mistake in relationships - they don't take responsibility for their own lives and they do things like blame the opposite sex when they really need to look at their own actions and take responsibility.

What do you think?

Mixed up emotions. Have you dealt with this?

You have an ex who left you. It was very messy and caused you great pain. You were angry for the way you were treated. It took you several years to work through it and move on, to get the memories out of your head.
You would hear about her from friends every now and then and it would bring up the anger but you found a way to stomp in down and move on.
Then, one day a friend comes to you and tells you your ex died unexpectantly.
The feelings are so mixed up. The anger is still there. The bitterness is now mixed with grief.
Has anyone else been there?

if there is some kind of physical during a date does that means she is interested in you?

Do you know how to listen, and can you hear what is being said?

I beg your pardon.

Does this make me..............

Does this comment make me sound like a bi*ch?
"Im sure your husband talks to women all day long unless you keep him tied up in a cellar somewhere"
I put that statement in a response to a pm and got told I was a bitch because of it. Do you think that statement makes means I am a bitch?

Is it really too much, too soon???

I met this really great guy on match.com who I also was matched up with on Chemistry.com. We have spent the last two weekends together and have a great time together. We laugh, joke, have serious, deep discussions, and are on the same wave length over all. I can tell that he has a great time with me and adores me. I haven't felt this kind of bond with anyone since I was a teenager. He is such a great guy and I can't help but to think about him. When we met, I told him that I didn't want a relationship right now but a great companion that I can have fun with and if a relationship developed later on, then I wouldn't run away. He agreed that he wanted the same thing. The problem comes in when on our first date I asked him some random question and the answer had to do with his ex. Almost 20 minutes later I could see on his face that he was still upset and I couldn't understand why. I can't remember the question but I know I did not ask any details about her. I don't want to know because it doesn't matter. They have no children and ended on bad terms with no chance of reconciliation. That's good enough for me. However, the thing that was unsettling was that he then informed me that they just broke up 6 weeks before that. I decided to brush it off and enjoy the evening anyway. The rest of the date was great. We talked like long lost friends and before the night was over, he kissed me. From that point on, we had a deeper connection and it felt great. We had the longest first date in history! LOL It lasted from Saturday night to Monday morning with NO SEX!!! We both could feel the attraction to each other but didn't want to ruin it by moving too soon. That Thursday, we have lunch together and he gave me the best hug I have ever had. It felt like the rest of the world faded away while I was in his arms. It was perfect. Then that night when we talked, he threw me a curve ball that I didn't see coming. He said he needed to talk to me about a couple of things and then he simply says, too much, too soon. WTF!?! Did I miss something??? We get along great and I can tell he enjoys being around me. He then says that it feels too much like we are a couple. I never said that I wanted that, I still don't want that yet. I just want to keep enjoying what we have without added drama or stress. He usually was the one to call me every night, make plans to see, etc. Where is the pressure coming from? He then says that being around me reminds him of how much he loved her. My heart sunk. So at this point, I ask him what does he want to do. He has no clue, but wants to keep seeing me because he enjoys our time together. He also wanted to establish that we were not dating other people. If anything, he's acting like he wants to be a couple. I cried and I prayed that night because I didn't know what way to go. The only thing that came to me was to see him again and not be afraid of the outcome. We went out that next night, per his request and had a great time! Went to my favorite restaurant that now is one of his favs, and checked out a comedy show. We went back to his place afterward and as usual, we had a beautiful night together. The next morning, I was prepared to go back home but he wanted me to stay. We had another great day and night together and I went home early Sunday. Tuesday, we meet for lunch again, and as always we have a blast! The one thing I noticed since he told me that this was too much too soon is that now when he is around me, he is even more caring, open and playful than before. Last night when I called him, he again tells me that it feels like we are a couple and that he is an emotional soup. However he still wants to see me! I'm so confused!!!! I told him that I was backing away and that when he was out of the man cave that he could call me. As I expected, I have not talked to him tonight but I have a feeling he is going to call and want to see me this weekend. I hate to do this but I made other plans already for Friday and Saturday so he is going to get space even if he thinks he doesn't want it. I'm really stuck and confused on what is going on. Usually when someone says too much too soon, they move on. He says he doesn't want that and his actions says that he doesn't. I just don't know what to think.

What is every one doing on this rainy crappy day here in MI

What do you do to cheer your self up on days like today?

Decode Your Cravings

When you crave chocolate

What it says about your body: You reach for the chocolate because the flavor makes you swoon-but it does that because it stimulates the release of serotonin, Hirsch says. It's basically an antidepressant in dessert form that your body instinctively seeks out when your happy chemicals are bottoming out and you need a quick lift.

What it says about you: That depends on what type of chocolate you long for.

. Dark chocolate: You're the life of the party, a social butterfly and right in the mix of the team project at work.
. Milk chocolate: You're the quiet, introspective type. Your idea of a perfect afternoon is a solo run or one-on-one time with a good book.

Why do people do this.....

It drives me freaking crazy......she has a good question....but without knowing what exactly he did that was so bad....how can we answer the question......

My boyfriend did something to me that I totally found awful

Its not a deal breaker or even the worst thing that he could have done but it was a bad thing to do and for that he is in a lot of trouble with me.
We stay together so I have not made him dinner, asked him about work, been friendly, cute or affectionate. I am mad at him so its not a game playing thing Im speaking to him but ONLY when necessary. Last night he tried to get some sex, and I told him NO, and exactly why I wouldnt do it. He said he understood and then we just went to sleep.
Purely out of curiosity do you think he didn't push for the sex becuase he realizes how much he screwed up?

Update: November 04, 2009.
Thanks guys just wanted your thoughts. Not giving him sex is not a punishment, his crime has turned me off. Im mad at him because he lied to me, when we 1st met I asked him had he EVER had any STD's he said no. Monday he was talking and it slipped out that he had had one when he was about 17. The fact that he lied about something that is important makes me mad, we been together 3 years so its a 3 yr old lie. He has made a dr's appointment (although I know for a fact everything is fine) and he will not get any until he can show me that he is clean, (I know that he is though because I have been checked everytime I go for my annual visit) thats what my condition would have been 3 years ago so thats what it is now. I think its fair. Better safe then sorry.